Today we are introducing a new series we call Girl Mom Stories. We will share a glimpse of #girlmom life here from time to time. Hopefully, you will see moms like you raising girls just like yours.
“Many days, when my girls and I are out running errands, people stop me and say, “Are all these girls, YOURS?” When I say “Yes,” they feel the need to tell me how hard I must have it. I smile and try to be gracious, but I see questioning in four pairs of eyes as they look at the stranger and then to me. “Do you think the same thing, Mommy?” they say without words.
I tell them later their dad and I wouldn’t have it any other way. “God knew what He was doing when He made our family. You are world changers. We get a front row seat. Who wouldn’t want that?” - Stacey, Girl Mom of 4.
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I have 3 daughters 5 and under and I am currently pregnant with a boy. I am getting to the point of disgust over the way people act when we tell them our forth will be a boy. “Oh, your husband must be so excited”, “You finally got your boy!!” , “Your husband will finally have someone to do things with.” It goes on and on and it always happens right in front of my daughters. It can happen as many as 3 times just while strolling through Target. When it comes down to it we could have cared less if we had a boy. We think girls are fun and my husband has no trouble finding things to do with them. I don’t like those lists of things not to say to one demographic or another but people really need to have a filter when they talk to parents and their kids are nearby. I’ll get off my soap box now. I look forward to the new series.
We had the same questions with our fourth. I wonder too what people are thinking when they speak such things. I try to use it as a teaching opportunity but it is heartbreaking to value a boy over a girl or a girl over a boy. Children are a gift. Period!
And blessings on your sweet family!
I have three girls. Our family is complete. My hubby is thrilled with each girl, thrilled. I am so tired of “are you going to try for a boy?” From everybody. My own mother. Who has one daughter, that’s it, so she must know how frustrating those comments are. Now, mind you, all three of the girls, 7, 6 and 3, were very challenging and frustrating this weekend, all weekend and I felt the weight of three girls, but I am guessing I would feel the weight of any combination of kids at times. I am soooo very thankful for my three girls.
I have 3 daughters. When I was pregnant with the third people would actually apologize to me when I said it was a girl! What hurt the most was when my mother-in-law found out and walked over and hugged my husband and said “I am so sorry honey!” I know she meant well and didn’t mean she would love or value another granddaughter any less but it stung. I think people assume that everyone would like to have both boy and girl children. I would have loved to experience having a son but God had other plans for us and who am I to question God?
When our 4 girls walk by and people turn their heads and make a comment like…”Poor Daddy!” I simply say…”He loves it! He gets treated like the King of the Castle.” Normally they smile and move on thinking a little bit differently.
Thank you so much, Stacey! I have two girls, but have had a hard time dealing with comments from family members about how they have “tried to get them to have a boy,” especially since my nephew is the only boy in a sea of girl cousins. I feel like I’m up against hundreds of years of backwardness, and it’s hardest when you know that if your girls were boys, they would be treated much differently (which I have chalked it up to, that’s the family member’s loss if they don’t want to hang out with my kiddo). Your comments and other mama comments help to give me some tools to lovingly explain that me and my husband wouldn’t have it any other way, especially since this is the family that God put together for us!
I think we have an amazing opportunity to value our girls - with words and in public. We can teach them they are wanted and blessed. We are blessed to be their moms.
I have the joy of being both a girl mom and a boy mom. I love it! I love that my oldest two are my girls and that they are learning to mother as they watch their baby brother (who is 10 years younger) grow up. I love that we get to giggle and do girly things together and I love that they are at an age where they want to study His word with me. And go shopping. You can’t do that so well with a two year old boy.
I am also a mom of four maidens. We’ve gotten all of the preceding comments as well. I don’t know why God blessed me with all daughters. I do know that I adore having all girls. I’m not sure how a young man would have fit into our family. He would have been inundated with Barbies and tea parties and baby dolls. Now my little darlings have turned into my big darlings all too quickly. 20, 16, 14, and 11. They each came into this world with a mother who was weeping happy tears. As they get older, they must still endure happy tears at every milestone mixed with some sad tears. What a wonderful adventure God has placed all of us on! Blessings to all of you on our shared “Moms of Daughters” journey!