The world is good at trying to tell us what we are not.

Not pretty enough.

Not smart enough.

Not friends with the right people.

Not wearing the “in” fashion.

You name it and someone has an opinion about it. Most often times, someone with loose lips far too willing to share.

This condition starts as a child and follows us right into adulthood. So the question becomes, how will I respond?

Britt Nicole to the rescue-

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We use music like therapy in our household. Lyrics carry inside of them power to shift our thinking and transform our perspective. Notes hold us through our emotion. It brings our hearts into unity with the One we most need.

When hurtful words were first flung at my girls I struggled with how to handle it. There is a real pain in the heart of a mother watching her child suffer. And, I wanted them to know it was natural to feel hurt and that they weren’t alone, but even more than that, I wanted to give them the tools to rise above insult. I wanted them to remember who they were.

While the opinions of the world are subjective, I tell my girls, the opinion of God is not. And He calls us “altogether beautiful” (Song of Solomon 4:7) “handiwork” (Ephesians 2:10). We were uniquely designed with intent from a Creator God who made us perfect for His purposes. Who loves us and gives us value. Scriptural Truth becomes the first line of defense.

And when it is supported through powerful repetition in catchy music it enables my girls to remember their identity.

Britt Nicole’s song Gold now lives in their head. It used to be that when harsh words were spoken I would say, “Who does God say you are?” and we’d dance to the song together. Then it got to the place where I’d say, “Whatever you’ve been told” and they’d finish it, “You’re worth more than gold.” But, today, they can hear unkindness and refute the lies with truth on the spot because these lyrics immediately spring to the forefront of their mind.

Does this mean that human judgment doesn’t hurt? Hardly. Scripture says words can be poison (Proverbs 18:21) for a reason. BUT, it helps them shake off meaningless opinion with life-giving Truth so that they can say with confidence, “I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made” (Psalm 139:14).

And that is a win.

What are some of your favorite songs to remind you & your girls who you are?