Do You Have a Girl You Love Like Me? My girl and your girl have something in common. It is something I have seen is every girl, no matter our age, our social status or how much money we have in our purses.
That desire to be wanted and pursued.
Adored and approved.
As my little girl walks out the door in the morning, one day closer toward graduation this spring, I sense my heart relaxing. I’m not peaceful because she’s my last child at home; we’re almost done! (Quite the opposite; I adore this girl!) I don’t sigh relief because she is perfect; for she is not. I’m not at rest in my heart because she never struggles with self-doubt or temptation.
No, I allow my heart to lean on the hope that the truth she has had poured into her, that she is wanted and valued, will carry her.
I trust that knowing Jesus already accepts her will empower her as she heads to college next fall. When the desire for that boy’s attention wells up in her heart, that she will recognize it for what it is. It is a natural desire, given by God, but it is a desire that must first be filled with the attention she receives from God.
The attention she already has. All of it. He’s been watching her, loving on her since the day she was born and He will continue to dote over her all the days of her life.
And I believe with this truth, she will able to enjoy the attention of a boy without needing the attention of the boy. And she will be able to keep her focus on Jesus, reaching her fullest potential in His love, rather than fixating on finding that boy’s love.
It is with this desire, I encourage my girls to invest their time, energy and emotions becoming the girl Jesus’ created them to be. Allowing Him, to create in them, love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control, to become the girl He wants them to become.
My prayer is, if it is God’s will, they will become magnetic to a guy doing the same.
Lynn Cowell’s new book “Magnetic: Becoming the Girl He Wants,“ helps girls (and their moms who walk alongside) discover how they become the best version of the beautiful girl God created her to be.
Below you’ll find an excerpt from Chapter One. Maybe this is the tool your girl needs? Today I’m giving away 2 copies! ( Giveaway details below excerpt!)
“Why doesn’t he like me? I just couldn’t figure it out.
What is it about me that isn’t as attractive as her? Am I not as pretty? Am I too loud? Are my friends not cool enough? The questions gnawed at me, eating away at my confidence. He had liked me once,; surely I could get him to like me again. There had to be a way.
I was determined to find out what was wrong with me.
Back in my own “wish I were dating” days, my highs and lows depended on whether or not I sawhim in the hall; my happiness was determined by whether or not he noticed me. The crush I had was crushing me.
I wish there had been someone who could have helped me…someone who could have helped me understand that the longing in my heart pointed not to my need for a guy, but to my deeper need for something, Someone, even greater.
How I wish I had known sooner that I was created to be loved perfectly and unconditionally, made to have my heart filled each and every day with love from the perfect Man – Jesus.
Then I could have spent my time, energy, and emotions, not on a guy I didn’t have, but on the One I did. I could have moved from obsessing over why I wasn’t wanted to becoming the type of girl a godly guy would want. Not just someone to date but someone he’d want to spend the rest of his life with.
I remember making the list, a gargantuan description of everything I was looking for in the guy I would marry one day. The more powerful list would have described the woman I wanted to become, the woman he couldn’t resist!
What would happen if you made the switch now? Shifted your focus off a guy and onto the Guy?
What if, together, we discovered an irresistible beauty deeper than designer clothes, jean sizes, and flaw-free skin? A confidence so attractive, nothing could cause us to lose it? A glamour simply magnetic?
In my quest to discover true beauty, I began to see gorgeous as much more than the face in my mirror. Gorgeous is not skin-deep but heart-deep, a beauty that develops as my heart discovers and returns True Love.
This beauty, this attractiveness, is found in the girl who has what I call “captivating characteristics”—what the Bible calls “the fruit of the Spirit.” These heart traits are described in Galatians 5:22–23: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control.
These magnetic traits are the result, or fruit, of the girl who has given her entire life to Jesus. The girl who spends her emotional energy allowing Him to live His life through her.
But, you don’t have to burn yourself out trying to become perfect. These gorgeous qualities will show up as you spend time with God and He pours His perspective into you!
When you’re “planted” in God, He provides all you need to reach your full potential—to be the best you you can be!
And, instead of chasing after the guy running from you, you’re pursuing the One coming after you. In the process of seeking His heart, you’ll become the amazing individual He designed you to be, a girl who is irresistibly magnetic, beautiful inside and out.”
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